It's one of those words isn't it, that we all bandy around, slap on software, and feel superior if we think we do it. But what does it really mean? What does it look like? What does it take to make it happen?
I have always said that the first step to real collaboration, as opposed to just having a shared space to stick your unreadable documents, is having the self awareness, the humility, and the courage to admit that you need help.
How you ask for that help mattera too. I am currently reading Amanda Palmer's excellent book The Art Of Asking in which she writes:
Asking for help with shame says:
You have the power over me.
Asking with condescension says:
I have the power over you.
But asking for help with gratitude says:
We have the power to help each other.